How to help students bounce back from mistakes without letting one define them

December 2, 2026 | 4:00 - 4:45 p.m. ET

Your mission promises character and resilience. Then a student cheats on a test, posts something careless, or hurts a friend online, and three things happen at once. The student decides what the mistake says about who they are. The family calls, asking the school to make it go away. Faculty each handle the moment their own way.

In a high-achieving school community, students read a single mistake as a verdict on their future, including where they get into college. That fear is what turns a learning moment into withdrawal or a repeated pattern. How students recover shapes their confidence, their relationships, and their ability to keep going when things get hard.

Join The Social Institute and Jessica Lahey, educator and New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Failure, for a practical approach to helping students move through mistakes in ways that build resilience and strengthen the school community.

You’ll walk away with

A framework for separating mistake from identity: built for consistent use across advisors, coaches, and division faculty.
Practical language for the conversation right after a mistake: including the one with families who want the consequence removed, and why letting students own it builds resilience.
Ways to connect your mission to the dean’s office: so the character language in your mission holds up when families are watching.

Featured guest speaker

Jessica Lahey

Jessica Lahey

Educator and New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Failure

Jessica Lahey is the author of the New York Times bestselling book The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. She has written about education, parenting, and substance use prevention for The Washington Post and The Atlantic, and her biweekly column “The Parent Teacher Conference” ran for three years at the New York Times.